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These skills enable us to get along with people in lots of different situations: the person standing next to you waiting for the bus, or the healthcare receptionist, the people you see regularly such as school friends or work colleagues, or the family and close friends that you have a deep connection with. The skills include helping us to make and maintain positive connections with others, even when we might disagree.

These skills are:

  • Accept others for who they are
  • Understand and feel someone else’s emotions
  • Understand what someone might be thinking
  • Be kind
  • Give freely
  • Get on with others
  • Build positive relationships
  • Love and be loved
  • Work well with others
  • Set and respect boundaries
  • Manage conflict

Why do these skills matter for a happy and healthy life?

Positive relationships are vital for our health and happiness. Being kind, giving freely, and setting healthy boundaries enable us to build relationships based on trust, respect, and mutual care.

The ability to build and maintain positive connections with people in various situations, from casual acquaintances to close family and friends, helps us to function in day-to-day life, and contributes to having a meaningful life. These skills help us work well with others, in both personal and work settings, and contribute to a sense of belonging and shared purpose

The skills in this cluster help us to develop and maintain positive connections with others, even when we have disagreements or different perspectives. By accepting others for who they are, we foster an environment of respect and understanding. The ability to manage conflict in a constructive way ensures that disagreements don’t damage relationships but rather strengthen them.

Nurturing relationships where we feel loved, supported, and connected is key to living a fulfilled and happy life.

We asked experts in the field to share their thoughts

Find out more about the other clusters of skills within the framework:

Know ourselves

Know ourselves

Who we are as individuals

Manage our emotions

Manage our emotions

How we understand, process and manage our emotions

Focus our thoughts

Focus our thoughts

How we effectively learn, work and manage life

Communicate with others

Communicate with others

How we recieve and share feelings, thoughts and information

Explore the world

Explore the world

How we explore and discover the world around us

The Shaping Us Framework – Full report

The Full Report describes the framework in detail and outlines how skills develop in early childhood.

The Shaping Us Framework –  Technical report

The Technical Report explains how the framework was created and the research that underpins it.

The Shaping Us Framework – Short guide

The Short Guide gives a quick description of each cluster of skills and why they matter.